Soft Skill Hack: What's the Magic Word?


One of my favorite pasttimes is people-watching.  I like sitting in the Commons or at the mall and just watch how people behave when they are alone and how they interact and treat others.  I find behavior fascinating, and I learn something new about human nature every day.  Most of the time my faith in the kindness in people is strengthened; other times, not so much.


In a previous blog entry, I talked about how important soft skills are to the success of your job search and career as a whole.  Under the category of "Good Communication" is basic manners.  You know, saying please and thank you, holding a door open for someone coming in behind you, speaking in calm and quiet voice, refraining from texting or taking a phone call when someone is speaking, offering to help someone who dropped their books or is carrying a heavy load.  (Basic stuff.)


It takes no more effort to use manners when dealing with other people than it does to be impolite, and the outcome of those kinds of interaction are always positive.  Yet I've witnessed countless students walk by someone who's having trouble opening a door, letting a door slam in someone's face, barking orders to other students, and screaming at or threatening a college employee when something doesn't go in the student's favor.  It's sad.  Very sad.  And it makes me furious.  (Crazy stuff.)


However, when I see acts of kindness and good manners being used, I have hope.  The majority of our college community uses good manners in their everyday dealings with others.  Campus life is much improved when we treat (and are treated by) everyone we encounter with kindness and respect.  An added bonus is these skills will come in very handy when snagging a dream job, keeping it, and moving up the ladder of success. (Good stuff.) 


Doesn't it feel good when someone shows you respect and you don't feel personally attacked or embarrassed?  It does for me, and I'd wager you'd agree.  So, if it feels good to you, imagine how great you could make someone else feel today by offering kindness and respect.  In a nutshell, if we all followed the "do unto others" philosophy, our world would be in a much better place.  (Great stuff.)













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Question:  Have you witnessed interactions where good manners were used?  Any examples of people who treat others with disrespect?   


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(c)2012 Robyn M. Posson

Going for the Bachelor's: Ten Steps to an Easy Transfer


According to the Chronicle of Higher Education, approximately 4 million freshmen start college each Fall.  One-third of all college students in the U.S. switch institutions at least once before earning a degree, says a report released by the National Student Clearinghouse Research Center.  That's a lot of students jockeying for an acceptance letter from their number one college choice.  If you're one of those people who want to transfer, there is a tried-and-true process to increase your chances of getting in.


Transferring from a community college to a four-year school is a process that should be planned well in advance; in fact, your first semester at SCCC is not too soon. The best strategy is to meet with our Transfer Counselor (located in Student Affairs), and stay in touch with her to ensure that you sign up for the best courses to match your interests, and which will be transferable to the institution(s) you're interested in attending.  It's also helpful to have a good relationship with the transfer counselor at your four-year school.  Being in regular contact with both the community college and the four-year college you hope to attend is a must.


With thanks to Bernice Dunn, here are the ten steps to an easy transfer:


1.  Identify career goals and area of study
This is vital in choosing a college.  Inquire about articulation agreements.  If you don't know what you want to major in, then it is time to make an appointment with a career counselor in Student Affairs who can assist you with this decision.


2.  Always register with "transfer" in mind.  Keep your grades up!
When you meet with your advisor each semester, remind him/her that you plan on transferring.  YOUR GRADES ARE IMPORTANT FROM THE START!  Other colleges look at all of your grades.


3.  Consider the environment that you want at your transfer college
What's important to you when thinking about a four-year school?  Location?  Size of school?  Public vs. Private?  Cost?  Urban, Rural or Suburban campus setting?


4.  Develop a list of colleges that suits you
The transfer counselors in Student Affairs can help you with this list.  College searches are also available on the Internet at:
http://www.collegeview.com
http://www.nycareerzone.org
http://www.collegeboard.com
http://www.mycollegeguide.org
http://www.cgf.org






5.  Research your college choices
With a list of five to ten colleges, begin detailed research by using the Internet at http://www.utexas.edu/world/univ/state/ .  Check out the colleges' catalogs online.  Talk to others about your choices.  What are your priorities?  Narrow your list to three to five schools where you would be happy attending.


6.  Catalogs
Colleges have their catalogs and applications online, and oftentimes will waive the application fee if you apply online.  If you graduate from SCCC, you can waive the application fee at any SUNY school.


7. Visit the campuses
If at all possible, it's important to visit the campuses to get a "feel" for campus life there.  Is it right for you?


8.  Set up an interview
Ask questions about transfer credits, financial aid, housing, meal plans, student life, and so on.  Also ask how long it will take to finish your degree there.


9.  Applications, Financial Aid, Transcripts, Essays and References
  • Apply online to three to five colleges, including one safety, one stretch and two matches. 
  • Complete the FAFSA (and CSS profile, if required), and have it sent to all of the colleges you're applying to.  DO THIS EARLY; the early applicants get most of the financial aid.
  • Go to our Registrar's Office and any other college you've attended and have your transcripts sent to all of the colleges you are applying to.
  • When writing your essays, be sure to personalize them to each school, and answer the essay question each college asks.  Check and double-check your spelling, grammar, and punctuation. 
  • The best recommendations come from college professors who can give accurate assessments of your academic abilities.  Letters from parents, friends or significant others are not appropriate for this requirement. 
10.  Wait and decide
You made it!  Relax and wait.  Assess all of your offers and decide which one is the best for your personal circumstances.  Send in the deposit and final transcript once you've decided.  Now...celebrate!





For more information on a smooth transfer, please visit our website:  http://www.sunysccc.edu/student/Counseling/TransferInfo.html  

Question:  Do you plan to transfer?  How's the process going for you so far?

 
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(c) 2012 Robyn M. Posson

Your Rights and Responsibilities as a College Student


Your life has no doubt changed significantly since you became a college student.  Now that you're a young adult, you have more autonomy and the freedom to make important choices.  You're developing mature, adult relationships.  Professors are asking for your views on various topics.  You have more school work than you ever expected, reading assignments that are enormous, and projects that seem monumental.  You're trying to balance all of this with everything else you have to do in your life off-campus.  And sometimes you feel irritated and overwhelmed; maybe to the point where you react and/or behave in ways that you might not under different circumstances.
 
It takes time to make a change, and the transition to the culture of a college campus is no different.  Our job is to educate you so that you may reach your personal and career goals, and encourage you to be a person who will make a positive impact on our campus and the world.  That said, the College also has many expectations of you; how we behave and treat each other is one of them. 


I am amazed and appalled when students and other campus personnel tell me story after story about how someone screamed at a teacher or got in a student's face, a student who disrupted a classroom with swearing and a hissy fit, college property that was damaged willfully, others' belongings being stolen, and people getting stupid loud and inappropriately hanging all over each other in the Student Lounge.  This is not high-school, people.  It is expected that everyone will behave like responsible adults.  Behaviors like those listed above are absolutely inappropriate and unacceptable on our campus.  Period.


To help you understand, I've listed the rights and responsibilities that clearly explain appropriate conduct that  everyone is expected to follow while on campus:  


Your Rights Concerning Other Students and College Personnel:

  • The right to a clean, peaceful and non-threatening environment in which to learn.
  • The right to ask for help and support when it is needed, without worry of retribution.
  • The right to be present on campus without worry of being stalked or harassed.
  • The right to clear and informative answers to questions that concern you.
  • The right to be present on campus without worry of criticism and judgment of your personal opinions.
  • The right to be present on campus without worry of emotional, psychological and/or physical threat and/or violence.
  • The right to be respectfully asked, rather than "ordered."
  • The right to be present on campus without worry of others' angry outbursts and rage.
  • The right to make a complaint if any of your rights have been violated, with the expectation that a solution will be found quickly.
  • The right to have your rights protected.
Your Responsibilities Concerning Other Students and College Personnel
  • You are responsible for helping to keep the campus clean, and behaving and speaking in a peaceful and non-threatening manner to create an environment conducive to learning.
  • You are responsible for treating college property with the utmost respect and will not cause intentional damage.
  • When asking for help and support, you will do so calmly, respectfully, using good manners.
  • You are responsible for behaving in ways that do not violate the rights of others in ways that they feel stalked or harassed.  You are also responsible for reporting stalking or harassing behaviors directed to you, another student, or college employee.
  • When seeking clear and informative answers, ask a college employee to direct you to the appropriate source.  If you still don’t understand, say so in a calm and mature manner.
  • You are responsible for reporting any inappropriate criticism and judgment.  You will refrain from criticism and judgment of other students' or college employees’ personal opinions as well.
  • You are responsible for behaving in ways that do not threaten or harm any member of the campus community.
  • You are responsible for asking questions in respectful ways, and without a tone of "ordering."
  • You are responsible for behaving in ways that do not include angry outbursts and rage.
  • You are responsible for respecting and protecting the rights of every college community member.

Behaving appropriately will serve you well as you prepare for your new career, and fortunately, we give you many opportunities to learn and develop them while on campus.  But what happens if one chooses not to abide by these rights and responsibilities?  When violated, SCCC takes a zero-tolerance stand.  Action will be taken.  And the consequences can sometimes be very serious.

The SCCC Student Code of Conduct (CoC) was created to clearly explain the unacceptable behaviors that can occur on campus (or at an off-site campus-sponsored activity), and the consequences that are handed to students who choose to misbehave, which range from taking no action to expulsion for an indefinite amount of time from the college.  A student who engages in illegal activities will be arrested.  I recommend that if you haven't already done so, check out the CoC and get informed.


We understand the changes that are expected as one grows into adulthood can be crazy hard.  There is much to learn and it takes time.  Nevertheless, we are committed to protect the rights and responsibilities of everyone on our campus...including yours.  We expect that you will do the same.


 







Source:  http://www.sunysccc.edu/student/conduct.htm

 [All images courtesy of Google Images, unless otherwise noted.]


(c)2012 Robyn M. Posson