Relationships: Feb. 14th...Do something nice for yourself instead.

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I heard on the news last night that in the United States alone, people spend over $1 billion (yes, I said BILLION) on Valentine's Day.  All I can say is...Really.  Are you freakin' kidding me?

In my work, I hear all too often from unattached folks about the heartbreak of not "being with someone," and the reminder that they are alone...again...on a major holiday like Valentine's Day.  

Those who are in a relationship worry and are annoyed by the expectations of "having to do something" for their partners...but not knowing what to do, how much to do, and how they're going to pay for it.  

It saddens me that a day dedicated to show our love and appreciation with loved ones is so ridden with angst, disappointment and profound sadness.

Let's change that way of thinking today.  Right now.

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Regardless of your "connection-status," I propose that each of us take a moment every day and show our love and appreciation first for ourselves.  

Think about how far you've come, how grateful you are for the opportunities brought your way, your health, and list all of the things that are wonderful about you.

I know, I know...you think this is loon crazy.  But hear me out.  Only when we truly love ourselves as we are today, will we ever be able to feel true love for someone else.  It's impossible to be loved by someone worthy if we don't first feel deserving and worthy ourselves.

If you're single, do something nice for yourself today.  Take yourself out to eat, go to a movie with friends, or buy a small box of your favorite candy (that you don't have to share with anyone!).  

And contrary to the ridiculous statistic I mentioned above, those of you who are in a relationship need not spend a lot of money to show your partner how you feel.  A card, one flower, a heartfelt spoken expression of your appreciation, gratitude and love will do the job.  For realz.

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Anyhoo...I have written a series of blog entries that I hope you'll find informative, interesting and helpful.  I call it the "ABC's of Healthy Relationships," and its purpose is to remind people how to love themselves first, and how to treat their partners (or potential partners) in ways that will up the chances of having the best relationships ever.

PS:  Happy Valentine's Day to Me...and You.   


(c) 2012-2017 Robyn  King.  All Rights Reserved.

ABC's of Healthy Relationships: K-L

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Kissing

Research has shown that when loving couples kiss each other goodbye in the morning and hello at the end of the workday, they report that their relationships are closer, more committed and satisfying, and surprisingly enough, there’s less incidences of auto accidents while commuting!  Giving your sweetie a smooch at least once a day keeps you connected in a way that no other person has to you or them.

Loads of Lusciously Lavished Love

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Stating the obvious, I know, but couldn't resist the opportunity for alliteration.



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Loyalty

One force that strengthens relationships is a dynamic referred to as loyalty. Being loyal means giving a relationship the highest priority, second only to loyalty to yourself. Simple enough—if you care about someone, then be there for them. Be true to them. Do what’s in their best interests. Loyalty is earned on a two-way street, so expect it in return.

There is comfort in knowing that the one person whom you love best will be there at your side, ready to catch you when you stumble.  Your partner feels the same when he/she knows you're there for them, too. 

  

(c) 2012 Robyn M. Posson