HELP! Do breakups have to suck?

No.  Breakups don’t ever have to suck.  Not like you think.

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Surprised at my response?

If the two people involved are mature and self-confident enough to realize that their relationship has run its course and it’s time to go their separate ways, they can calmly and respectfully make that decision together, and wish each other well.

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No drama.  No screaming.  No stalking.  No blowing up the other person’s Facebook page with hateful words. No disrespectful behaviors are exchanged.  (These are red-flags for insecure, immature individuals.  These people are to be avoided until they find their missing confidence.)

Don't misunderstand.  It's incredibly sad when you’ve imagined having a life with this person, and realize that it's no longer an option.  It’s absolutely appropriate to grieve the dreams and hopes you had.  Figure out the lessons you learned from that relationship and make a mental note to use that wisdom in positive ways next time.  Eventually the sadness will lift and you will learn to move forward without this person.  You'll once again love your life and will be ready when the next love-of-your-life crosses your path.


If you're a breakup survivor and need some guidance, read The Breakup Recovery Plan.

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