HELP! I'm scared of confrontation and standing up for myself. I have never done so in the past. How do I do it and what do I say?

You make a solid plan.

1) Ask yourself this question..."What's the absolute WORST thing that could happen if I stood up for myself?"

2) When you've figured that out, ask yourself again..."If that is indeed the worst thing that could happen, what could I do to protect myself while standing my ground?"

3) Realize that you are strong and powerful, and protecting yourself is what you need to do.  When you confront someone, you must be safe (see question #2). When you've been mistreated, hurt or disrespected, you have every right to tell that person you will not allow that to happen any longer.  (Personal boundaries are healthy and necessary.)  Tell them in detail what the negative consequences will be for them if they continue (report to a trusted adult or authority figure, call the police, etc.) Stand your ground.  You are more powerful than your fear.

4) If the other person refuses to treat you better, follow through with the action you said you would take. This will be hard, but your actions will convey that you mean business and you won't allow him/her to push you around any longer.

5)  Enjoy the feeling of self-respect and empowerment.

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