Relationships: The Breakup Recovery Plan (Step 3)

[Note:  Although this entry was written for a woman in a heterosexual relationship, these same principles will help anyone whose relationship has ended.]



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Whether you were together for two weeks, six months, or four years, breakups hurt.  A LOT.  What’s worse, they can be really hard to get past.   A breakover is a set plan that moves you from the initial pain of a breakup to re-creating your life into what you want, better than what you had, with your confidence lifted and personal integrity intact.  With the help of Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt (authors of It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken), here is Step 3 of The Breakover Plan:

1. No contact for 60 days.

2. Get yourself a Breakup Buddy.

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3. Gather your Dream Team.  Isolating yourself from the world ("I don't need anyone...I can do this myself") isn't helpful nor healthy.  Now is when you need to have people in your corner.  In addition to your Breakup Buddy, surround yourself with friends and family who love and like you, but don’t torture them by constantly analyzing the breakup or mentioning his name a million times.  Enlist their help when redecorating and de-cluttering your living space and by accompanying you to the list of fun activities you’ve been wanting to do.

Next step:  4.  Allow yourself to grieve.



[Source:  Behrendt, Greg & Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt.  It's called a breakup because it's broken.  New York:  Broadway Books, 2005.  Print.] 

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