Relationships: The Breakup Recovery Plan (Step 2)

[Note:  Although this entry was written for a woman in a heterosexual relationship, these same principles will help anyone whose relationship has ended.]



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Whether you were together for two weeks, six months, or four years, breakups hurt.  A LOT.  What’s worse, they can be really hard to get past.   A breakover is a set plan that moves you from the initial pain of a breakup to re-creating your life into what you want, better than what you had, with your confidence lifted and personal integrity intact.  With the help of Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt (authors of It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken), here is The Breakover Plan:

1. No contact for 60 days.

My Breakup Buddy and Me

2. Get yourself a Breakup Buddy.  This is someone who you trust completely, and to whom you can be accountable when you’re having a moment of weakness during the 60-day detox, when you feel sad or lonely, or find yourself plotting some kind of revenge against your ex.  This person will serve as your coach, reality-check, shoulder to cry on, cheerleader, give-you-a-kick-in-the-ass-when-you-need-it friend, someone who will drag you out of the house to get the stink blown off of you, and who will celebrate all of your little victories along the path of recovery.  Choose this person carefully and ask whether he/she is willing to follow through with this level of responsibility every day for the next 60.

Next step:  3.  Gather Your Dream Team


[Source:  Behrendt, Greg & Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt.  It's called a breakup because it's broken.  New York:  Broadway Books, 2005.  Print.] 

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