[Note: Although this entry was written for a woman in a heterosexual relationship, these same principles will help anyone whose relationship has ended.]
Whether you were together for two weeks, six months, or four years, breakups hurt. A LOT. What’s worse, they can be really hard to get past. A
breakover is a set plan that moves you from the initial pain of a
breakup to re-creating your life into what you want, better than what
you had, with your confidence lifted and personal integrity intact. With the help of Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt (authors of It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken), here is The Breakover Plan:
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1. No contact for 60 days.
2. Get yourself a Breakup Buddy.
3. Gather your Dream Team.
3. Gather your Dream Team.
4. Allow yourself to grieve.
5. Get rid of his stuff.
6. In with the new: Reclaim your living space.
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7. Meet with a counselor.
You would benefit greatly from sharing your feelings with someone who
doesn't know you or your ex. Seeking out this kind of help is so
incredibly healthy...and it does NOT mean you are crazy or mentally ill.
Professionals are trained specifically on how to help people find new
coping strategies to get through these kinds of life transitions. Counseling can also help you to regain your self-esteem to prepare you for the next relationship.
Next step: 8. Do a self-inventory
Next step: 8. Do a self-inventory
[Source: Behrendt, Greg & Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt. It's called a breakup because it's broken. New York: Broadway Books, 2005. Print.]
[Source: Behrendt, Greg & Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt. It's called a breakup because it's broken. New York: Broadway Books, 2005. Print.]
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