When we think of generosity, we conjure up images of being lavished with flowers, gifts and money, or lavishing these things on a loved one. The kind of generosity I'm referring to is generosity of one's self and time. Stepping in to help your partner accomplish a task, giving up a night out with friends to be fully present to support your lover through a personal crisis, and dropping everything you had planned to help a family member with an emergency, are all examples of giving one's self and time to help another. These kinds of gifts are far more valuable and longer-lasting than anything that comes wrapped with a bow.
People create goals for every area of their lives including personal, career, financial, marriage and family. Some people, however, do not realize that goals impact each other. This is further complicated in a relationship because there are not only the common goals but also each person’s individual goals. Personal goals need to be discussed honestly, and a solid and collaborative plan needs to be in place so the individual goals of each do not hinder the common goals of the couple. One partner does not need to abandon a goal if it can be accomplished while keeping the relationship's integrity intact.
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Gratitude
There is an unwritten (but proven) rule of the universe that when we are grateful for what we have, we are happier, more content and make ourselves open to opportunities that will provide us with more than we imagined. It's a mindset that says there is abundance (and not lack) in the universe, and what we have today is enough.
Sounds like a bunch of malarkey? It isn't. Think of it in this way: when you feel good about what you have and what you're doing right now, then a by-product is having hope for the future and the sincere belief that you can achieve whatever it is you want. This, in turn, tunes in your internal radar to the awareness of opportunities that will move your life forward, you'll meet a goal, and you'll then be grateful for that. Then you'll be open to other opportunities, meet a goal, and be grateful for that. What you have and are able to do every day is enough. Get the picture?
To get you started in creating a gratitude mindset, write down everything you are grateful for everyday; examples are: the birds singing in the morning, your health, and interview for an internship you want, the hot water in your shower, the roof over your head, your job that pays the bills, the cell phone that keeps you connected, your family/friends/neighbors/coworkers, the opportunity to go to college, etc. Next, tell and show your partner your gratitude every day. Let him/her know how much you appreciate their presence in your life, their sense of humor, all they do for you, etc., and that your life together is good just as it is today. Tomorrow, your relationship will undergo changes and that will be enough, too. You will no doubt feel better when you keep the focus on what you do have...instead of what you don't.
(c) 2012 Robyn M. Posson
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